A constant theme in my writing is the invitation to see that whatever is arising within you in this moment (or any other moment), is yours...all yours! Whatever you are experiencing is never EVER about the other person, the economy, immigrants, politicians or the weather! It is actually all about you. This is never a problem when we are experiencing love, joy and peace. We like these things and bask in their warmth. But, when we are in the midst of sadness, pain, sorrow, anger and despair we feel uncomfortable. We would prefer to NOT to have these feelings and so we try to escape our feelings (with all of our usual escape routes like a few cocktails, TV, sports, and even meditation - yes, meditation can be just as powerful an escape tool as a case of beer, it just happens to be more acceptable). Of course you can't actually escape yourself, can you? Once we are finished binge watching 5 season's of Downton Abby, lo and behold, there we are, still feeling uncomfortable, empty, bored, alone. So, we flip through Netflix until we settle upon the next numbing distraction.
Alternatively (or in conjunction with our avoidance techniques) we like to blame people and circumstances outside of ourselves for our misery and misfortune. How often do we get angry at our boss, partner, children,parents and politicians? As soon as we experience some feeling that is uncomfortable we eagerly blame the person or event that seems to have caused this discomfort to arise. As if they are insidiously sneaking about, planting 'bad' feelings inside of us because there's just no way THAT (insert your choice of anger, jealousy, rage, sadness, envy etc) came from within me....I am the pinnacle of calm, generosity and helpfulness, right? No one wants to acknowledge that such 'negativity' could possibly reside within them.
But, what IF the feeling we are experiencing was already there, laying dormant inside of us. What if that emotion that has arisen represents a deep hurt from our childhood that we have been carrying around within us: a hurt that has quietly affected us by holding us back, by reminding us, consciously or unconsciously, that we are unworthy, unlovable and afraid. What if that person or circumstance that has reminded us of our inner hurt was actually placed on your path with great care and love....by you! That we invited that dirty, rotten SOB to participate in our soul evolution by reminding us to look within and discover what is there calling out for attention; for healing; for resolution? That might be a really difficult awareness to grasp - that you authored your life script in such a way as to invite the perfect opportunity for growth to be brought to you by the ideal foil in the most powerful way. What if that other person agreed to be the catalyst for our shift (and to perhaps incur our wrath and vitriol) only out of the greatest love and respect for our soul journey....What if?
Radar is an amazing invention. A broadcasting station sends out an energetic pulse that bounces off an object of density resulting in an energetic signature being sent back to the radar station. What if that person in your life who is constantly getting under your skin, causing you to lose your temper or belittling and humiliating you is just like a radar station. They are simply programmed to send out a particular energetic pulse. They may send out that pulse in all directions in all their relationships, or perhaps just in your company. But in your case there is a density within that gets struck; that gets activated; that results in an energetic signature being sent back. Chances are not everyone reacts as you do to this person. Chances are they having loving parents, partner and children who think the world of them...So why not you? Why does their radar signal affect you and not everyone else? And whatever can you do about that? You can try and avoid such radar stations, skulking in the shadows, staying out of sight, which really means compromising your life to avoid discomfort. You can attack the radar station and try to destroy it, which is usually hard to do and usually results in all kinds of collateral damage and injury. Or, you can simply accept the invitation to look at the density within that is being activated by the radar and work on healing that density, in gratitude to the other for assisting you on your path of self-discovery and self-realization. With reflection and attention the density will dissolve and that particular radar no longer pings off of you; you have become clear and translucent...until the next ping from another radar station!!
Alternatively (or in conjunction with our avoidance techniques) we like to blame people and circumstances outside of ourselves for our misery and misfortune. How often do we get angry at our boss, partner, children,parents and politicians? As soon as we experience some feeling that is uncomfortable we eagerly blame the person or event that seems to have caused this discomfort to arise. As if they are insidiously sneaking about, planting 'bad' feelings inside of us because there's just no way THAT (insert your choice of anger, jealousy, rage, sadness, envy etc) came from within me....I am the pinnacle of calm, generosity and helpfulness, right? No one wants to acknowledge that such 'negativity' could possibly reside within them.
But, what IF the feeling we are experiencing was already there, laying dormant inside of us. What if that emotion that has arisen represents a deep hurt from our childhood that we have been carrying around within us: a hurt that has quietly affected us by holding us back, by reminding us, consciously or unconsciously, that we are unworthy, unlovable and afraid. What if that person or circumstance that has reminded us of our inner hurt was actually placed on your path with great care and love....by you! That we invited that dirty, rotten SOB to participate in our soul evolution by reminding us to look within and discover what is there calling out for attention; for healing; for resolution? That might be a really difficult awareness to grasp - that you authored your life script in such a way as to invite the perfect opportunity for growth to be brought to you by the ideal foil in the most powerful way. What if that other person agreed to be the catalyst for our shift (and to perhaps incur our wrath and vitriol) only out of the greatest love and respect for our soul journey....What if?
Radar is an amazing invention. A broadcasting station sends out an energetic pulse that bounces off an object of density resulting in an energetic signature being sent back to the radar station. What if that person in your life who is constantly getting under your skin, causing you to lose your temper or belittling and humiliating you is just like a radar station. They are simply programmed to send out a particular energetic pulse. They may send out that pulse in all directions in all their relationships, or perhaps just in your company. But in your case there is a density within that gets struck; that gets activated; that results in an energetic signature being sent back. Chances are not everyone reacts as you do to this person. Chances are they having loving parents, partner and children who think the world of them...So why not you? Why does their radar signal affect you and not everyone else? And whatever can you do about that? You can try and avoid such radar stations, skulking in the shadows, staying out of sight, which really means compromising your life to avoid discomfort. You can attack the radar station and try to destroy it, which is usually hard to do and usually results in all kinds of collateral damage and injury. Or, you can simply accept the invitation to look at the density within that is being activated by the radar and work on healing that density, in gratitude to the other for assisting you on your path of self-discovery and self-realization. With reflection and attention the density will dissolve and that particular radar no longer pings off of you; you have become clear and translucent...until the next ping from another radar station!!
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